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"Organize the team before practice starts and talk about how even though things are not going the way we want it to, that we can still turn it around. i would motivate the team to try even harder and look forward to a positive future. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would push my team to work hard during this practice. It is important that they will be motivated to put forth full effort to improve the season. It is important to bounce back strong from a loss. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"Try to play extra hard to fire the less motivated players up for the next game." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would get everyone together in one group and talk about what we as a team need to do next time to improve. Also we could go around and tell eachother one personal and team goal for the next time we play togething. And after talking end with a team cheer." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Before we start practice I would ask the guys huddle up, from there I would do a little speech talking about how we can make a difference in the season right here, starting rght now in the practice field. We determine our future. If everyone of us plays our hearts out and we are truly  determined to make ourselves look good, we WILL win. Then I would break it down Hard work on three. One, Two. Three HARD WORK! " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Talk to the team and discuss future strategies and schedule additional practices." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"As a team leader, I would gather the team at the beginning of practice and have a talk with them, helping us as a team come back from a loss so that we can work hard and have a positive attitude going into practice. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would tell my teammates to keep looking forward towards the next game and that it is a long season. The season is a marathon, not a sprint." ~ Howard High School (Maryland)

"I would try to encourage the players to keep trying because eventually all the hard work put into practices would pay off." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I let the team know that the last game is over and we cant go back and change the outcome. What we can do is work hard this week to ensure that we put forth maximum effort for a win next week. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would tell the team what they did well in the last game but also critize what they did wonrg and what they can improve and focus on those during practice." ~ Unidentified

"I would put a possitive spin on the situation and just motivate the team to work harder so we don't have a loss like that again." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I motivate the team by first going over all of the positives that were seen throughout the match.  We would then discuss what went wrong and ways in which we would be able to fix those mistakes. I would ask anyone if they had questions on any specific ways to improve their proformance for our next match.." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would start by acting as if my mood was a positive one and if people looked down, I would tell them to forget about the loss and to start new. Erase that loss from your mind and start over." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would motivate the team telling them that we have a lot more chances throughout the season and that was just one loss. If we wanted to approve we have to keep the mood positive and don't get down on ourselves. If the mood stays positive and we work even harder, then the team will bond better together and have a better season. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Remote back to team chemistry. Instead of practice, do a team bonding activity. Go for a long run, do yoga, or play capture the flag. Go back to what was fun, remind them that  as  a team we are also a family. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"Make sure everyone does their job and make practice  great with intensity." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2012

"keep my head up and try to show the rest of the team that we can bounce back with some hard work and if we study the scouting report a little harder and work a little harder if one person falls down the team will stumble." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2011

"After a big loss, everyone on the team will be disappointed. As a leader, I would make it my goal to encourage the others to keep their heads up and keep working hard. I would remind my teammates of the importance of keeping a poisitve attitude and leaving everything out on the field.." ~Archbishop Williams High School (Massachusetts) Class of 2010

"Get everyone down to the field 10 minutes earlier than practice normally starts. When you tell everyone to meet early, do it with a positive, upbeat, energetic attitude. Once everyone is there, bring them together and talk to them about staying positive. Say something like, "Look, the season obviously isnt meeting expectations at this point. I know it would be much easier to roll over at this point and give up on the season. That's what everyone else in the county wants to us to do. But why do that after we've already put in all this work? Weight training all offseason and all summer. Coming out and running in the heat with tires and in the bleachers. Going to Shenendoah and practicing 3 times a day. Staying up late every night doing homework because you were at practice for 3 hours. All the practice time you put in. All the hard work. All the knicks and bruises and headaches. Look, we have 4 games left. Make it our goal to win all 4. But first we have to come into this practice with a good attitude and show the coaches we are in this for the long haul. Stay positive and just look forward to the games. Alright?" ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I would talk to my team about the previous game, and the mistakes we, as a team made. I would then tell my team to forget about it and focus on the upcoming game and to have a high intensity practice." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would tell the team that the losses are in the past and we should look at those times as experiences to learn from, not failures. We should look at our weaknesses from the last match and work to make them stronger. The next match will be a clean slate and a chance to move on and grow."

"Tell the guys this was one obstacle were going to advance over. don't dwell on the past we learn from our mistakes and take note on what we did so that we improve and see these guys at the playoffs. I want to see each and everybody rally from this loss and get what needs to be done because were not going down without a fight." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would basically tell the team that everything happens for a reason. We lost, but we need to get over it and learn from our mistakes. I think a loss is the best time to improve. It helps to overcome weaknesses, and lets us put the past behind us. I would tell them that a good player is like a goldfish; they have short memories."

"focus on how the team can improve and perhaps arrange a team gathering for some fun and team bonding." ~ MENAHGA (Minnesota) Class of 2011

"Try and make practice a little more fun for everyone even though the coach is in a bad mood, tell everyone as long as we have fun things will go better and we just have to stay positive and do our best. We don't try to lose, just try your best.

"I would pull the team member aside and talk to him. i would relate to him by sharing some of my flaws and explaining how we need to work on them. i would then ask him to not say anything to the referees but instead tell the coach or me so we can address the referees. also let him know that there is nothing we can do about the referees calls, all we can do is make up for it in the next play.. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would confront the player quietly, during a break in the game. I would hope for the player to listen, and not further jeopardize the team as a whole." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"Right away I would pull the hothead over and tell him how much arguing will have no effect on the decisions and to not do it." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would wait till a dead play or time out and pull that player to the side and tell them that it all ready happen and think about the next play. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Tell the teammate to back off and apologize to the officials." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"If this situation was happening during a close game, during a time out or a period when play is not going on, i would confront the team mate and discuss the importance of keeping our composure and our attitude towards the officials. It does not demonstrate good sportsmanship when we show disrespect to the officials and it is important, that as a team we show good sportsmanship and respect the officials and any adult. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I would tell my teammate to stop talking to the official because it is not helping the situation, just to play through it. I would tell him as soon as I could." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Before he game or at halftime i would approach the teammate and tell her to calm down and take a deep breath. The official is just doing his job. He is only trying to call a clean game and do his job there is no reason to agitate him, it will only make things worse." ~ Howard High School (Maryland)

"When my teammate is getting in the face of the official I pull the player aside and calmly say, "you aren't going to change his mind. He already made the call, you can't do anything about it now." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I talk to the official calmly and ask questions. i do it when there is a dead ball not during play. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would tell my team mate to not question the officials because they don't want to be the reason for a loss and I would tell them that its the officials job to make calls, and that they know what they were doing. I would do it as soon as my team mate started to question them." ~ Unidentified

"I would tell the player that they are not the only guy on this team. If we are going to succeed, we need to play as a team and showing sportsmanship is part of playing on a great team.  I would say it is natural to get upset at times, but we need to work on controlling it, and focusing more on defeating our opponent." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"During a break of play, I would pull the kid aside and tell him to not talk to the reff." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"If this could result in a victory or a loss i would first talk to the player about it and tell them how it could affect us. If they still keep on questioning calls, i would talk to the coach about it and let him/her decide if they need to be taken out of the game so that they don't agitate the officials too much. I would first talk to the player about the questioning only after a couple times that they have done it so that its not too late." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would speak to the teammate on the sideline (call a time-out.) It is important not to talk to them in front of the other players because they may find it degrading or disrespectful. It's very important you address this problem so it doesn't cost us the win." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"As a captain, its important to know how each player is motivated. In this situation, pull your teammate aside and direct them back on the right path by reminding them of who they are, what they stand for, and why they love the sport. Remind them of the team and the team goal. Keep it upbeat. In that moment, reason with them by understanding why they are upset and turn that negative energy into something positive." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"you dont stand for it tell him to do his job and they will do  what they need to and you do it as soon as he says  something." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2012

"Talk to the player ask whats going on and try to figure it out tell him to sit back or tell the coach whats going on so he doesnt get in trouble you dont go looking for trouble with the officials." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2011

I would tell the player he needs to be a team player. As a team member who obviously gets playing time, he must be a good contributor in other ways. I would remind him of his importance and ask him to just brush the calls of his shoulders and play his game. Before the game or during practice would be a good time. Players such as these are usually habitual offenders. ~Middleton High School (Wisconsin) Class of 2010

"I would make an effort to speak to my teammate, whether it be during halftime or before or after a game. I would explain to her that while you may not always agree with the referee's calls, it is important to respect his or her authority. I would make sure that I spoke to my teammate in private that way she would not be embarrassed, however she would know that what she was doing was not going to help the team.." ~Archbishop Williams High School (Massachusetts) Class of 2010

"When he calms down pull him aside for one second without embarrasing him. Get in his face and tell him that if he keeps it up he's going to cost the whole team the game. Tell him to just calm down and keep his mouth shut. Him yelling at the officials does nothing but make them even more against you. They aren't going to change a call they've already made. No sense in argueing something you can't control. If the ref doesn't change then he has to adjust to the ref because they control the game." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I would tell my teammate immediately to keep there comments to themselves and play the game." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"At an appropriate time, one that isn't interrupting the match or causing a disturbance, I would tell my teammate that they may not like the officials' calls but they have the final say, not you. I would say that sometimes you have to just let things go, especially when your actions could affect other people. Agitating the officials will have no positive outcome, so it's best to just let this one go."

"Hey dont worry about the official even though he knows hes making ridiculous calls dont woorry about it stay focused on the game we need this win." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to the player once I realized that it was agitating the officials. I would basically just tell them that its not gonna change the call and its best just to let it get you more hungry for the win. During a previous basketball game I was faced with the same situation. I just told the player right there to let it roll off her back because it wasn't worth it."

"Take my teammate aside and just tell him to chill out, they aren't gonna call it especially if you are agitating them, so just play your game with your teammates and let it go." ~ MENAHGA (Minnesota) Class of 2011

"First I would approach the coach about the player who is seeking only self status and let him talk to the player and discipline them. then I would have a team meeting and cookout inorder to discuss the problem in an orderly fashion and then bring the team back together. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would schedule an after practice meeting between myself and the players involved. Here we could discuss difficulties and hopefully move on. It is important that the team has good chemistry. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would confront the cocky player and tell him that the team appreciates his skills but needs his humility more to help the whole team succeed not just himself." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would would have a team meeting and talk about this problem and tell them that need to stop if they want to reach our goals as a team. And if this does not work then talk to players individaully." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Tell the teammate about the situation and reason with him and the rest of the team." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"As a team leader, i would first confront the person who is only concerned about themselves and remind them that this is a team sport and that more successful results will appear, if we all work together as a team. After that, i would have a talk with the whole team reminding them the importance of playing as a team and working together to achieve the main goal, and that we will be more successful if we work together." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I would try to get the player to start playing for the greater good of the team and to tell the other players to stop their actions because they are just making it worse, not better." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Talk to all the players as a team and try to explain to everyone that we are a team and we work together. Sure u can worry about your stats but the team as a whole means much more than your stats. There is no "I" in team." ~ Howard High School (Maryland)

"I would talk to the teammate that is only concerned in himself and say that you can't win by yourself. You and the team will see that if we work together, the results will be better than if we work divided. We are a famil.." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I sit the teammate who is playing for himself and tell him he can play until he focuses on the we not the me." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would tell that person that it is not all about them, and its a team effort not just their own effort. I would then tell the other members who wanted to make sure the star didn't get the stats that they are hurting the team by doing it. I would tell everyone to focus on the team and not be an individual." ~ Unidentified

"I would have both sides of the argument come together with the coach and I to discuss the problems that are happening.  I would fairly and honestly listen to both sides of the argument, reminding the team that we all need to work together to win, and that there is no I in team.  I would ask the coach to step in and address the problems head on so that no more divisions would plague our team and eventually our season as a wholet." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would have a talk with the team saying that we should start playing like a team. Forget about the stats and lets start winning together." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would first talk to that one teammate only worried about their stats. I would tell them how this sport is a team thing involving everyone and how it doesn't matter your personal stats, what matters is how the team is doing together. After that talk hopefully the other team members would notice the difference between that player and the team would become closer again. " ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would have a talk with the player by telling them how the rest of the team feels about their ego issues. Then I would talk to the team about how though the person is cocky, they are crucial to the success of the team overall so we can't bring them down. Both sides of the division need each other and though they may not realize it now, it has to be communicated." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"DO NOT APPROACH OR ACT INFRONT OF THE ENTIRE TEAM. Pull individuals aside to talk about the problem. After confronting everyone separately, get the team together and talk about team goals again." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"You put a team meeting together and  let him know what he is doing to the team and if he doesnt want to be a part of it then  let him go." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2012

"Tell the player he will get his stats if he starts playing for the team when the team is working together there are more weapons and that makes the team more dangerous means less time for the other team to get ready for you. then tell the team that we cant fall apart over this we have to keep doing our job." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2011

"I call the team together to address the issue. The key would be to point out the purpose of our team. We must win games! We are varsity athletes for a reason. let the others plays know that he is necessary to win games. On the flip side, in a one on one situation i would let the player know that this is a team sport. He needs a reminder that his needs to work with his team mates to get the best results. The seven wonders of the world were built by one man. I would let him know that if his selfishness continues his playing time would suffer. I would make sure of it." ~ Middleton High School (Wisconsin) Class of 2010

"In this scenario, I would talk to my coach. I would explain to him the problems I saw. I feel that by talking to the coach, he would be able to approach the team in a way that would be very effective. By doing this, hopefully the problems would end." ~Archbishop Williams High School (Massachusetts) Class of 2010

"Talk to the "superstar" one on one and let him know what's going on. Show him what he's doing to the team and tell him if he really is worried about his stats that they will improve if he lets the rest of the team know he's making a change. Then, tell the team that they are being just as selfish as the "superstar" was and everyone needs to make a change before something really bad happens." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I discuss the situation with the entire team and let them know that it is hurting the teams overall record and they need to play as a team (together) and the stats will come for everybody." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would hold a team meeting and address the growing issue that I've been witnessing. I would tell them that we work as a team, and that the team must come first. Obsessing over personal results, whether it be your own or wrecking those of another player, takes away from the effort you should be putting into supporting your team. As a team, you must learn to work together and support each other through everything, which isn't possible when you get caught up in personal wins and losses."

"Rally the team up and have an hour long discussion on what the goal we are trying to acheive and ask the "Are you willing to jepordize this team because of one persons selfish act?" ask a couple more rhetorical questions to inculcate the team Then have a one on one with the person agitated about their stats if you really have a problem with your stats improve take the time to craft your skills and show us what your made of don't make the mistake of regretting not leaving everything on the field." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would confront the player. I would tell them that although their stats may look good for them, they do not look good for the team. I would just warn them that if they don't start changing their ways the entire team will be affected."

"Let the kid know its a team sport, if you want to win you have to include your team, a win with a team is better than 40 points and a loss." ~ MENAHGA (Minnesota) Class of 2011

"Ask to hang out with the friend and talk to him about the situation. let him know that he is still a valuable part of the team and not to take the change poorly. tell him you will talk to the coach about the change, but make it clear that i cannot promise him more time. it is the coaches choice to pick who plays, and he decides what he thinks is best for the team. work with the friend and let him know that the only way to get playing time is by trying harder." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Since this is my friend I would be very concerned. But if this person was still hurting the team with negative comments, confrontation would be needed. I would talk to this person and encourage him to try harder in practices to regain the starting posistion." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would take my friend and go run after practice, hit the gym in the morning, play during the day, and try to fire him up about needing to improve to get that playing spot." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would have to talk to my friend and tell them that if they want to not be on the bench they need to work harder to earn the right to have there spot back." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Tell them to relax and talk to the coach about any possible alternatives." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Making the move from jv to varsity is a big step, especially as a sophmore, so first, i would welcome the underclassmen and let her know what a great job she is doing, and also congratulating her on her success at earning a starting position. Then, i would approach my friend and discuss how her behavior is putting a negative affect on the team, and that she has the ability to start, she just needs to put some work into it. I would also offer to help stay after practice and help her if she needed it." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I would tell my friend to calm down and if they work hard enough and just develop a good practice ethic, they will back the starting job. The bad attitude does not help them or the team." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to the coach first and see why he moved the starter to the bench. I would then talk to the ex-starter and try to explain to her that obviously she needs to work harder in practice or do better in school. I would explain to her what she had done wrong and given her advice on how to fix it." ~ Howard High School (Maryland)

"I would tell the player that being sour and talking negatively about the coaches and players isn't going to get you your spot back. What will get your spot back is hard work and determination. so you should work on that instead of talking negatively about the program." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I talk positively and help my teammate build his confidence back up so he will have a better attitude on and off the field." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would tell them not to get upset over it, and not to take it out on the coaches and program, but use that attitude in getting better and working harder to get off the bench." ~ Unidentified

"I tell my friend/teamate that he should not get discouraged.  Even though he might no longer be the starter, he still plays an incredibly important role on the team.  By working hard in practice, he is not only making himself better which can gain him a starting spot, but he is also making the team better as a whole which benefits everyone.  I would tell him to help the sophmore as much as he can, because he will need help from an older more mature player." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would have a private talk with my friend saying that they cant be mad, and they need to just support that sophmore and support the team. It will help more than just sobbing on the bench." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would personally have a talk with that friend. I would discuss that its whats best for the team and if he/she is just going to talk negatively about it, then they don't belong here. Also, I would tell them that if they keep positive and just work even harder to get their spot back, the coach and everyone else may notice and you may earn your spot back." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to them about how much the team needs them. Even though he might not be starting right now, he's just as important as the sophomore starter. Every member of the team is as valuable as the next. Whether its cheering on the sidelines during games or helping the rest of the team get better at practice, he is crucial to the team's success. He'll have another opportunity to start, its just not now." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Don't feed the source of pain. They need to remember this is a team thing. If you feel bad for them they will never get over themselves. Instead keep focused on the team." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"Make him relize if he starts doing his job in practice and  showing he is the better player  then he will play again untill then its his fault." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2012

"Tell them that if he wants the job so bad he needs to earn it if the sophmore is out there playing there is a reason. the coach is going to put the best out so do your job the best you can and you will be the one on friday nights." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2011

"This is a tough situation. I would encourage my friend to keep working because she needed to prove that she deserved to start. I would explain to her the importance of staying positive all the time." ~Archbishop Williams High School (Massachusetts) Class of 2010

"Talk to the friend and tell him he looks terrible when he badmouths the coach and program and he's also embarassing everyone. Tell him that you understand the situation he's in but he will only take his starting job back if he works harder like the sophomore did, not by having a bad attitude. Then reassure his goal is to start again." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I tell them to work hard in practice to show the coach that they deserve to start over the underclassman. When they do get in the game, give it there all." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to my friend after a game or practice and tell them that I understand why they're upset by what happened, but that you have to remember that being on a team means sometimes having to make personal sacrifices in order to do what's best for the team. It may be upsetting that you lost your starting position, but you should still work hard and support your team members to help create a positive attitude in which everyone will be happier."

"Talk to my friend and tell them he's only here to support our team we all have the same goal on our mind be the team player work harder or help the kid own his skills to take us on that goal. Your attitude is affecting the team because you can't tell off our coach like that it's inexcuseable and if you dont like the way things are being ran around here i guess your just going to have to leave the decision and the time is now." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to my friend. This sort of thing happens all the time. I would advise them to talk to the coach and not demand for more playing time, but ask what they can do to improve as a player. This will show initiative, strong will, and determination."

"If he plays better I'd still play him but talk to him about his attitude and if it continues he will be benched." ~ MENAHGA (Minnesota) Class of 2011

"Talk to the other captain at first to try to calm me down. then when practice is over i would ask to talk with the coach. i would let him know that i didnt understand exactly what he was asking and apologize but ask for clarification.." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would talk to the coach quietly during a water break so that I could better understand what he wants me to do. As a captain I would then share the information to my teammates." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"After practice I would ask to speak privately with my coach and we could talk strategy and leadership in a calm manner to help improve future practices." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would tell when the coach when the play is over that i don't understand what there are trying to tell me." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Ignore it and if it continues to happen, talk to him an private after practice." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"When this situation occurs, i would keep working to try to make it right, and then  during a water break, i would have a talk with my coach asking what she/he would like me to do to fix the problem and express that she asked me to do that specific thing." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"I ask the Coach what the right way is and have him explain the fundamental. I would do it at the next break in practice." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Ask the coach how to do it and then try again. If he again, tells me that i did it wrong i would confront him and tell him that he just told me to do that and i am only doing what he wanted me to. I would talk to him calmly and explain to him what i think he told me to do. If he has something to say i will listen and we will come to a conclusion." ~ Howard High School (Maryland)

"After the practice is over I approach the coach. Maybe I was unclear about what he was really telling me to do. So I calmly ask the coach what I did wrong, and what I need to do to fix my mistakes. I do this to learn from my mistakes and to gain clarity from the coach on the situation." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"i talk to the coach about what im doing wrong and what he wishes me to do. i do this in private and not during the time my team is practicing." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2013

"I would just nicely ask the coach what it is that they want me to do to see if they made a mistake the first time telling me. Whatever they say after asking them what they want me to do is how I would do it next time. I would do it right after they yelled at me that I was doing it wrong." ~ Unidentified

"I stop and think about the situation, and what has happened.  I would take a few deep breaths and then calmly talk to the coach, to clear up any misunderstandings that may have happened.  I would not blame anyone, but forgive both myself and the coach for making any mistakes.  I would be aware that it is more important to keep a cool head than to worry about who is right or wrong in the situation." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"After practice I would talk to the coach about my concerns." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would just keep to myself and not talk about the coach or get others involved. I wouldn't want to make the situation worse. But after practice, I would go up to the coach and discuss the whole situation and have a calm discussion about it." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"I would take a breather. Confronting the coach right there and then would show disrespect to him in front of the entire team and would just show that you are hotheaded and immature. Just keep trying to do what he wants. Later on after practice, you can talk to the coach about how you were confused with the situation. It was most likely just a misunderstanding." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2011

"Keep following the coaches demands, then after the game, in private approach the coach with your misunderstanding or understanding of the situation." ~ Howard High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"You ask the coach what  do i need to do  to make it right and  ask as soon as possible so you can fix it practice makes perfect." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2012

"ask for them to tell me again or explain it again and stress the fact that you thought thats what he/she ment. and as soon as they yell the second time." ~ Crestline High School (Ohio) Class of 2011

"In this situation I would remind myself that I was being viewed as a leader. While I might be upset, I would approach my coach and in a calm manner ask him what I was doing wrong and how I could fix it. I would then explain to him what I thought I was supposed to be doing. This way I gain insight into what I was supposed to do and I can calm myself down." ~Archbishop Williams High School (Massachusetts) Class of 2010

"Tell the coach you are trying in a respectful tone and explain what you think you're doing and ask the coach for more advice on how to fix the problem. Do this during a break in practice. Not right after it happens so you both have time to cool down." ~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2012

"You talk to the coach in a respectable tone and tell them the situation. Maybe the coach made a mistake and you were doing the right thing all along".~HOWARD High School (Maryland) Class of 2011 t;/font>